Knygatin, I don't think Jojo was giving real relationship advice (I could be wrong) but I got the impression of playfulness rather than seriousness. Likewise, Kyberean seems to have been going off of Jojo's comment and connecting it to CAS.
In all seriousness, as per the last discussion, I personally find the above statements to again contain too many absolutes. Again, so much of it is true. Of course our parents affect our psychology and I would be the last one to suggest there really is a tabula raza.
However, if one adopted this philosophy that indeed we have no free will and that everyone is "programmed," then things like
responsibility will be in the trash. Guys like this Garrido in California who raped and kidnapped a small child could say, "Well sir, yes I raped her, but you know my parents did this and that and you know, I am just programmed to do this..." People make choices and that, even if they are under the belief in illusions, is a form of free will. This man had a choice.
Also, like society, psychology is ever changing. In Freud's time, there were two parents usually from which one could ascertain some sort of idea of where the child was coming from. But now, given that the divorce rate (in the US at least) is nearly half, most children do not have the two parents around. And while indeed, there may be one parent, oftentimes that parent is not around much because they are working to support their family. If no one is around and if there are not really parents to get to know, who is the child taking some form from? Who do orphans or children moving from family to family in foster care, for that matter, get to know? I don't point these things out because parent-child psychology is completely off. No, there is much to it but there is also exceptions and particularly right now, great changes occuring when it comes to how much contact a parent and child have.
Quote:Remember, there is no perfection in human relationships
Yes and in this you are generous. If there is any "lesson" in all this talk it is that it is important to "Know thyself." Know your psychology as best you can, cultivate your good qualities, be aware of( and perhaps even try to conquer) your weaknesses, and know Knygatin's statement above that there is no perfection.
We may disagree about details but I agree wholly about striving towards:
Quote: a love that looks beyond and transcends the pettiness of human conflicts
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 15 Sep 09 | 01:50PM by NightHalo.